“Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.”

—Helen Keller

Amy Steinhauer

Amy Steinhauer

I found the social work field when looking for ways to actualize my social justice values. It appealed to me right away: the bio-psycho-social perspective, starting where the client is, seeing the person in the context of their environment. I gravitated to the direct service and psychotherapy side of social work because it was the best and most intuitive fit for me and my natural skill set.

For 25 years, I have provided individual, relationship, and group therapy, led workshops, and trained and supervised professionals. Like most therapists I know, my approach to therapy is eclectic: I draw from a number of schools of practice (feminist therapy, relational therapy, emotionally focused therapy, family systems, some aspects of cognitive and behavioral therapies, sex therapy) depending on the needs of my clients. But what centrally defines my approach is the relational perspective. I have come to value relationships as central to healing: the integral importance of partner, family, and friend relationships as well as the importance of a good quality therapeutic relationship.

I am an active and collaborative therapist. I understand that coming to therapy is a vulnerable experience, and I’m going to be in it with you. I have lots of questions and I like to think together with people. I will share my perceptions in the moment and check them out with you. I will attend to shifts in the room to help us both track your experience: your feelings, thoughts, and reactions in the moment, which can gives us lots of information to deepen the work. I am both direct and empathic, and I work from a stance of respect and curiosity to cultivate a safe environment for sensitive therapeutic work.

To work well with you, I want to really understand you—what your values are, what works for you, how you best function in the world. I assume and celebrate differences and want to develop a treatment plan with you that deeply honors who you are.

I am LGBTQ-affirmative and welcome people of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship configurations, and lifestyles.

Education and Credentials

  • AM (Masters Degree in Social Work), 1992, University of Chicago School of Social Service Administration
  • LCSW (Illinois Licensed Clinical Social Worker), #149-007533
  • ACSW (Academy of Certified Social Workers)
  • CST (Certified Sex Therapist—American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists)

Professional Affiliations

  • National Association of Social Workers (NASW)
  • International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT)
  • Chicago Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy (CCEFT)
  • American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT)
  • The Society for Sex Therapy and Research (SSTAR)
  • The International Society for Sexual Medicine (ISSM) and the Sexual Medicine Society of North America (SMSNA)
  • The National Vulvodynia Association (NVA), professional member


To contact Amy, please call 847-425-1500, ext 1 or email amy@evanstonrelationalpsychotherapy.com.

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