“Zest [is] the feeling that comes when we feel a real sense of connection, of being together with and joined by another person. It feels like an increase—as opposed to a decrease—in vitality, aliveness, energy.”

—Jean Baker Miller and Irene Pierce Stiver

Contact  & Location

Appointments & Fees

Office hours are Tuesday through Saturday by appointment. If our practice is full, we will do our best to offer referrals to trusted colleagues. Because of our specialized work, we sometimes keep a wait list for those interested. Appointments are 50 minutes. We reserve regular weekly times for our clients and see this as a mutual commitment.

We use a HIPAA compliant electronic health record in our practice. When we set an initial appointment for you, we will email you a private link to our client portal which has our electronic intake paperwork.

At your first appointment, we will focus on assessing your concern and beginning to develop a plan for addressing it. We are happy to speak with you and answer any questions you have by phone or email prior to scheduling an appointment. (Please know that while we will keep your emails private, confidentiality cannot be ensured, as it is possible for emails to be intercepted during transmission.)


Evanston Relational Psychotherapy accepts check, Chase Quickpay (clearXchange), or cash at the time of service. As part of our commitment to social justice and accessibility, we do have some limited availability at a lower fee for clients who are an especially good fit for what we offer and for whom our standard fees would be a significant barrier.

Amy Steinhauer’s session fee: $180
Emily Gordon’s session fee: $120


Evanston Relational Psychotherapy does not participate in any managed care panels, so we are considered out-of-network providers. Likewise, we are opted out of the Medicare system. Amy Steinhauer is eligible to see Medicare beneficiaries under a private contract where Medicare cannot be billed. We are happy to print monthly statements for you that you may submit to your (non-Medicare) insurance company for reimbursement based on your plan. We recommend contacting your insurance company if you wish to use insurance to ask about your out-of-network mental health benefits. Many insurance companies do not pay for couple therapy or sex therapy. One issue to consider is privacy. If you wish to submit statements to insurance, they will require a diagnosis code, and sometimes require further information such as treatment plans and progress notes. (We will never release these without your written permission, but if you decline, it may affect your ability to be reimbursed.) They require that treatment is ‘medically necessary.’ Insurance is a medically based model, based on functioning and symptom relief, rather than on depth of understanding, satisfaction, happiness, connection, pleasure or meaningful experience. Sometimes that fits well with a person’s psychotherapy needs and sometimes it does not. With this as with other things, we believe it is good to be informed about risks and benefits, pros and cons, in order to make the best decisions you can make for yourself.

Notice of Privacy Practices

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